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How to get your toddler to keep trying when they are about to give up on a difficult task?

How to get your toddler to keep trying when they are about to give up on a difficult task?

Trial and error feels frustrating. Build up your child's frustration tolerance with this 3-step coaching.

Basak Anil Dec 8, 2021 • 2 min read
? Don't leave me
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? Don't leave me

6 weeks ago, my 2-year-old had a rough start at the daycare. After 3 weeks of trying, we dropped out. What went wrong?  Today I'm telling you the entire story. This week I also wrote an extensive article on "understanding the roots of daycare stress" by digging out the attachment

Basak Anil Nov 13, 2021 • 6 min read
Understanding daycare stress in babies and toddlers & Tips for a healthy start

Understanding daycare stress in babies and toddlers & Tips for a healthy start

Before 3 years old, starting daycare can be a tough experience. Here is how to manage the transition without damage.

Basak Anil Nov 12, 2021 • 5 min read
How to raise confident children

How to raise confident children

Find out what confidence is, why it matters and how to build up your child's confidence.

Basak Anil Nov 12, 2021 • 4 min read
?️ In this shithole with you
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?️ In this shithole with you

Hello friends, An event I witnessed during vacation helped me pinpoint the core of my mission. This week I wanna tell you all about it. I was getting breakfast at our hotel and I saw it. A 10-year-old girl having a rage attack. She was standing beside a large, round

Basak Anil Oct 23, 2021 • 7 min read
How to start teaching mindfulness to your child

How to start teaching mindfulness to your child

Here are 4 ways you can start practicing mindfulness with your child.

Basak Anil Oct 22, 2021 • 3 min read
Let’s rethink parenting together. Become a member today, for free.

Let’s rethink parenting together. Become a member today, for free.

Basak Anil Sep 14, 2021 •
? Emotional vaccination
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? Emotional vaccination

A kid pushed your child in the playground. What should your child do? Push back? Come running to you? Do nothing? Situations like these are confusing. We want our kids to be able to stand up for themselves. But we also want them to avoid using violence—even if it

Basak Anil Aug 21, 2021 • 3 min read
Your child was pushed by another child. What next?

Your child was pushed by another child. What next?

Here's a new way to help our kids handle conflicts.

Basak Anil Aug 21, 2021 • 5 min read
? Your Trojan Horse
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? Your Trojan Horse

Greetings from Tenedos (Bozcaada), a small Aegean island filled with ancient history, wine, and sunshine. I'm currently vacationing here part-time with my family in a beautiful vineyard. And part-time, I keep on creating. Tenedos is the island the Greeks hid their ships during the Trojan War. Hiding here on this

Basak Anil Aug 16, 2021 • 3 min read
? Let it go
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? Let it go

Am I an anxious parent? I see myself as an aware parent. But I wonder: Is my close-to-constant awareness bringing along some anxiety? This week I wanna think this aloud with you. My 21-month-old is soon to start daycare 2 half-days a week and I'm NOT feeling great about this.

Basak Anil Aug 8, 2021 • 3 min read
? What to expect
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? What to expect

I was on a business class flight this past weekend. My intention was to finish up the letter on the flight. But the temptation to enjoy the 3-course meal and watch a movie as my toddler napped took the better of me. Hence the 2-day delay. :) I hadn't pampered myself

Basak Anil Aug 2, 2021 • 2 min read
? Got my attention
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? Got my attention

In the early 1970s, an American psychologist named Ed Tronick started visiting newborn nurseries. Each Saturday, he and his colleagues would examine babies together, noticing how newborns communicated through behavior. They did this for 8 months. Back then, the social development in babies had never been studied. That's when Tronick

Basak Anil Jul 24, 2021 • 4 min read

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Basak Anil Jul 24, 2021 • 1 min read
Why all parents should learn about attachment

Why all parents should learn about attachment

Learning about attachment can transform your parenting. Find out why.

Basak Anil Jul 24, 2021 • 3 min read
? Get it done
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? Get it done

It's been 10 long weeks since the last issue. Thank you for your patience! I wasn't planning the pause to be this long but I ended up getting so much done thanks to it. I've finally started making long and short videos, done lots of writing for my new e-books,

Basak Anil Jul 17, 2021 • 3 min read
The golden rule of productivity for new & stay at home parents

The golden rule of productivity for new & stay at home parents

Do you have kids at home but also need to feel productive without sacrificing your time with your kids? Try this out.

Basak Anil Jul 7, 2021 • 2 min read
Is mindful parenting for the rich?

Is mindful parenting for the rich?

How can we "just be" when we have things to get done? Is mindful parenting only for the privileged? The answer is no. Find out why.

Basak Anil May 23, 2021 • 3 min read
? Something's cooking
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? Something's cooking

I've been cooking up exciting new things at Apparent, meaning I was busy with the website the whole week. So this week I decided to put together a "best of" issue. Explore the best of Apparent Letter issues & articles down below! ? 30 million years: The case against sleep training,

Basak Anil Apr 17, 2021 • 2 min read
1-I intend to...
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1-I intend to...

Take a moment now to set an intention for your Apparent journey.

Basak Anil Apr 15, 2021 •
2-Where do you feel the stress?
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2-Where do you feel the stress?

As you imagine your difficult moment, where in your body do you feel tension or stress?

Basak Anil Apr 15, 2021 •
3-Reaction vs. response
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3-Reaction vs. response

Teach your brain to spend some time "being with" the stressful moment before taking any action.

Basak Anil Apr 14, 2021 •
4-Pause and respond
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4-Pause and respond

Imagine holding a remote control in your hand to freeze your stressful moment.

Basak Anil Apr 14, 2021 •
5-Overreaction

5-Overreaction

Overreaction is not so bad. It's understandable that our brains make errors when faced with potential danger.

Basak Anil Apr 14, 2021 •
✋ I am bored
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✋ I am bored

A while ago, a dear Twitter friend confided in me with a parenting challenge she had been having. Her 3-year-old son always seemed bored. He was also clingy. When his mom offered an activity, he refused to play for longer than 5 minutes. Living in a 9-person family, he'd play

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Basak Anil Apr 11, 2021 • 3 min read
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